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Human Emotions:
Something important, we should know about
We all want success in our lives.. to achieve a satisfied, successful life we work day and night, and try to find new resources and fields to achieve our goals …which could help us to create our desired life. But sometimes we don’t get there where we want to see us. We are unable to do anything for others that we wanted to do or often we fail to keep our relationships in good shape even though we value them.
Often it happens that when we look back to our lives, we realize that it was our emotional attitude that created problems unwanted situations, and sometimes disasters in our lives..it is our emotions or feelings that play a great role in our success, our failures and in our better living.
How emotions take control over ourselves
We all have emotions… and as long as we live they would stay with us. we have different kinds of emotions. love, hatred. happiness sadness. Anger fear affection, etc.. some r very important and necessary for our lives, but some causes problem. I personally feel that if we don’t have emotions we r as dead as a table or chair…..being emotional is not an issue or problem but the problem starts when we get over emotional… in that case instead of checking what is wrong or right for us we r acting according to our emotions or feelings or moods…we all r educated civilized persons, and know what kind of actions should be taken in which situations but we act according to our emotions… sometimes they drive us crazy.. and we behave like an insane person… sometimes they cause our lack of confidence because we don’t do many things which r necessary for us just due to fear…and what is fear??? its an emotion…. sometimes we lose our very important relations due to anger…we lose our friendships because we can not say sorry due to our ego…these all r emotionsemotions work as stimulants that force us to act or behave according to our feelings, whenever we get angry we usually forget the consequences of our behavior, and we never realize what we’re saying, or how we’re behaving. what kind of expression we have on our faces, we ignore all these things. sometimes we stop acting like civilized people… we never realize that it may destroy our future. our relations. Or sometimes our whole life.
we have many feelings. moods or emotions,
but here we discuss a few of them, and we encounter them daily.
Jealousy.
Jealousy is a negative thought or feeling… whenever we become jealous of someone we lose our positivity which affects our ability to work, .. instead of concentrating on our work we get insecure start thinking of someone else, feel depressed, and ultimately these feelings push us towards the unhealthy way of thinking we start to get irritated on small matters which lead us to the bad performance,
Fear.
The emotion of fear is quite essential for us, without fear we can not save ourselves from many dangerous situations but some fears could be harmful. we cannot speak in front of people, and we can not be able to decide because of fear of what people would say.. it is all because of our over-emotional attitude.. fear of losing something prevents us from taking any kind of initiative in life…and this fear cause of lack of confidence,….without confidence we r nothing. due to fear, we become a victim of procrastination because we r afraid to take any action in life.
EGO
We need to draw a line between self-respect and ego. often we don’t do many things, like say sorry, or don’t accept our defeat, or don’t want to lose an argument, etc. and if in life have to do this we feel bad and get annoyed, this annoyance affects our performance. so we must make a balance between these two.
Good emotions.
Good emotions, like care sacrifice, love respect, or giving too much importance to others,…These habits and behaviors are good but everything which exceeds its limit ultimately gives u harm. Giving people too much importance could destroy our Peace of mind…sometimes people think we’re emotional fools and they start taking advantage of us……which makes us frustrated and affects our daily lives…we neglect our benefits in taking care of others. But we need to think about ourselves too…because taking care of our interests doesn’t mean we’re selfish…
We need to create balance in our emotions or sentiments…
1. We need to look at ourselves from others’ viewpoints… daily for a few minutes, we try to come out from ourselves and imagine that we’re observing someone else. Think about what would suggest to others in these situations.
2. Try to not react immediately… give yourself a few minutes…
3. Find ways to control your anger, anger is the most harmful to your life, career as well as health… it may cause losing your relationships, and your job…create dislike among the people for you…..it could destroy your whole journey and if u can not control your anger … so forget to achieve any success in life…
4. Draw a line between ego and self-respect…never hesitate to say sorry.
5. Meditation can be very helpful in controlling your emotions.
6. You could also attend seminars, and join workshops, where u learn the techniques of controlling your emotions, EFT can be also useful.
7. You could take help from self-hypnosis or self-suggestions.
If we don’t try to create a balance in our behavior, we get losses,
which makes us depressed and we start making mistakes…and mistakes lead us to failure…